One of the major reasons for lack of intimacy between couples is work related fatigue and stress.
Career priority is taking its toll on intimate relations in younger couples. Earlier, men over forty or fifty had erectile difficulties, with sexual dysfunction affecting menopausal women. Now, younger men and women in their 30’s face similar problems.
Sexual boredom or lack of intimacy and desire has its roots to our changed priorities. Men and women are spending more time in boardrooms, with their career occupying center-stage. The energy levels hit the lowest point at the end of the day when they step into their bedroom.
Normal healthy couples, which otherwise would not require medical help, are seeking sex therapist to sort out sexual desire problems. The need however is to reconnect and explore, spending more intimate moments rekindling love and desire for each other.
One of the essences of romance is doing exciting new things together to recreate the lost bond. A therapist in a move to improve physical and emotional bonding, advised a couple to take tango lessons together. Dr. David Schnarch, in his book Intimacy and Desire provides a roadmap of how couples can transform their common sexual desire problems into self-exploration to build stronger relationship.
Counselor therapists opined that togetherness is missing in couples because of lifestyles that offered them very little time for each other. Little things as holding hands and taking a walk together or spending a small part of the day in fun activities that require physically touching each other are excellent ways to enrich intimacy and bonding. Getting physical is not happening, and as a result younger couples go through a temporary disconnect.
